Expectations. Premeditated resentments. Unnecessary stress. Yesterday, I did a great job of placing the responsibility of change squarely on the shoulders of my clients--where it belongs, of course. And yet, for hours afterward I was left with a sadness I couldn't explain. Through reflection and journaling, I stumbled across the thought: I expect my clients... Continue Reading →


apparently I’m a therapist

I stumbled upon some new (to me) remote job search sites. So I started looking. I think it would be nice to have another revenue stream that doesn't revolve around getting more therapy clients. And wouldn't it be nice to flex some other muscles, to remind myself that I'm more than a helping professional? To... Continue Reading →

I see your pain…now what?

I've been thinking a lot about emotional pain. How it looks. How people respond to it. What makes it better. How sometimes you're just supposed to sit with it, and other times you need to challenge it. How sometimes you need someone to sit with you, and other times you need to be left alone.... Continue Reading →

Don’t tell me. Show me.

I find it hard to update here when I'm working on my novel. So much of my energy is directed at just getting the words on the page. But I often have moments of wanting to talk about the process of writing, and this feels like the right place to do it. Especially if any... Continue Reading →


During a yoga practice yesterday, while floating in savasana, I heard the teacher say that imposing conditions on your current experience will not help you. A wave of emotion swept over me, because I felt the truth of this message. It's not the novelty of the concept that affected me so deeply, but more that... Continue Reading →

Learning to Stay

I realized today that I am not so very good at staying. Back up. I knew that already. I realized today that I am not so very good at noticing when I'm not so very good at staying. But there's wisdom in the noticing... or so Pema Chodron might reassure me. Today, I reasserted my... Continue Reading →

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