When good storytelling hits you in the feels

I recently watched Hasan Minhaj's Homecoming King, and I was really moved--to laughter and to tears. He's incredibly talented and such an important voice right now. His stories about growing up brown in America hit many of the high points that I can only try to explain to my non-brown friends. The expectations that seem out... Continue Reading →


I see your pain…now what?

I've been thinking a lot about emotional pain. How it looks. How people respond to it. What makes it better. How sometimes you're just supposed to sit with it, and other times you need to challenge it. How sometimes you need someone to sit with you, and other times you need to be left alone.... Continue Reading →

Missed Opportunity

It's expected that clients will occasionally leave therapy abruptly. Even if I think things are going okay; even if the clients have told me that things appear to be going ok. It's rare, however, for clients to return and tell you why they left. It's definitely an opportunity for growth. I can learn where I... Continue Reading →

The dangers of Axis II

When I was in graduate school, one of our most seemingly prestigious instructors warned my class against the potential evils of Axis II (personality disorders). He said that while he didn't want us to pathologize our clients, he needed us to know that some people in this world are truly dangerous, that we must be... Continue Reading →

Choosing My Voice

This is an essay I wrote for a contest last September. I wasn't interested in winning and am not entirely sure this essay is really a final draft. I just needed a reason to write. In the past, when I've been given a prompt or a deadline, I could motivate and discipline myself enough to... Continue Reading →


Faith is taken for granted. It is taken for granted that someone who grows up in a particular religious context will be religious or faithful. That faith is part of your heritage. No. Religion and its accoutrements are part of your heritage. What you feel inside, how you internalize your family’s religious traditions is a... Continue Reading →

In the wake of tragedy, it disheartens me to see discussions about politics, who has guns, and the state of mental health care in this country. Not that these aren't valid discussions, but it seems to me that we are missing the opportunity to be humans. To empathize. To experience grief and horror and decide... Continue Reading →

wanting more = doing more

I've been wondering about relationships. With friends. With lovers. With family. I've wondered about their development, or lack thereof. I'm curious about how they get stuck in some point in the past and can't seem to move forward. How the people in them time travel when in relation to each other but stay grounded in... Continue Reading →

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